Sonja Shahan
 
 
 

MIDLIFE REBOOT

 
 
 
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ADIOS, STAGNATION  

We’re going to pull you out of that immobilizing funk and get your brain-heart-life pumping into this fresh new phase of life.                  

 
 

YOU  KNOW  WHAT  IT'S  LIKE  TO  HAVE THE  BLUES

But this is different. It's BIGGER. It's got  40+ years of momentum under its belt.

The usual fears and doubts are digging in deeper. Time appears to be moving faster. And you are convinced that doors are starting to slam shut.

You've been stuck for so long that you wish someone would just tell you what to do. 

 
 
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You just thought you’d have it more figured out by now. You would love to feel strong, optimistic, fearless. 

What's WRONG with me? Why can't I do what I say I want to do? Should I go back to therapy? Say affirmations? Drink less? Go on anti-depressants? Move to another town?

WHAT'S THE STUPID MAGIC FORMULA?

 
 

Take it easy on yourself, beautiful. We're going to pull you out of this mess. 
 

IT'S  TIME  FOR  AN  INTERVENTION 

A big fat perspective shift. A WAKE UP CALL A defibrillator. Someone to come in and shake it up, breathe fresh life in, peel off the greasy top layer so you can SEE again.

Because YOUR HEAD needs to be in a very different place if you want to live out the rest of your days with grace and ease, humor and integrity.  

 
 
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HOW CAN I HELP ? 

 
 
 
 
 

            

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I  SEE WHAT YOU CAN'T SEE

YOUR mental mafia is not managing MY head, I don’t have to heed its threats and bullying. I listen to what's underneath every word you say and read between the fiction and the fears.

I’m not talking about a years-long, dig-it-all-up therapy process.

☞ This is a PULL-YOU-OUT-OF-YOUR-FUNK, get your head and heart back in line, and your feet hustling down the path into the second half of life – with clarity, a wider view and unshakeable acceptance.

 

BECAUSE RIGHT NOW

 YOU KNOW YOU NEED TO TURN THIS AROUND ❋

You feel like you’re kind of pissing your life away, sticking close to your comfort zone, wishing your life looked like SOMEONE ELSE’s, and feeling like you let your potential go to waste.

 
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It's not just a midlife crisis. It’s a MEANING-OF-LIFE CRISIS

★ You know you need to get moving, but you just HIDE OUT in your head. You ruminate. Waffle. Can’t decide. Talk yourself out of it.

★ Sometimes you get ALL FIRED UP, but with a HALF-baked plan, that you HALF-follow, and a head FULL of I can’t – you don’t seem to get very far.

★ You’re RIVETED on what you DON'T have, what you haven’t done. Your mind is packed with WHO you're supposed to be and WHAT you're supposed to have done by now.

★ You are still WAY TOO WORRIED about what other people think.  

NOT-SO-GLAMOROUS habits have formed on top of your stuck state. Overeating, overdrinking, over-Netflixing, overspending, overworking. You were just trying to take the edge off, make life rosier, more enjoyable – but now they’re keeping you down.

★ Your mind is like a WILD BANSHEE. The same crappy tapes loop over and over. You know you’re your own worst enemy. But you can’t seem to slow down the sh*tshow.

★ You look OK on the outside but on the inside you’re SCREAMING. You can’t believe you can’t get yourself unstuck – it’s so embarrassing. 

You just want to feel MORE OPTIMISTIC, calmer, more at ease. You want to live the rest of your days awake at the wheel, feeling like life is RICH and you’re engaged in it.

 
 

AND IT’S KIND OF LIKE NOW OR NEVER

You are starting to feel like if you don’t get a handle on this before the menopausal hellfire begins – you’re doomed.

Once upon a time, everything felt doable, explorable, possible. But it suddenly feels like the doors are closing. Like you’re blowing it.

LIKE YOU’VE MISSED THE BOAT.

 
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LISTEN, SISTER. The truth is that the world is just WAITING for you to pump out your beautiful heartflow.

You cannot keep hiding safely in your corner, underperforming, DISTRACTING YOURSELF in a million ways, telling yourself you don’t have what it takes, and watching your optimism and confidence erode by the year.

It’s just a bunch of junk in your mental trunk that’s keeping you down. But waiting until the fear subsides IS NOT A GOOD STRATEGY

THE 40s AND 50 s ARE  GORGEOUS  DECADES 

And I don’t want you wasting another PRECIOUS DAY living in the fog of confusion, hoodwinked by your fears, second-guessing your power and your ability to MOVE MOUNTAINS.

 
 

You can actually decide RIGHT NOW that you are going to live out the second half of your life feeling free, engaged, unburdened, alive.

And I am RIGHT HERE to give you a GIANT leg up.

I KNOW YOU THINK YOU'VE TRIED EVERYTHING

But what we’re going to be doing here is different.

 
 
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This is NOT some airy-fairy ask the Universe for help and never encounter roadblocks again. This is you KNOWING what to do when life deals you a tough hand or you get dragged under by fear or habit.

It’s about you being able to PULL YOURSELF OUT, wipe off the dirt, and keep on keeping on. It’s about changing the way you relate to life, yourself, situations.

 

HERE'S  WHAT  ON OFFER IN THE  MIDLIFE  REBOOT 

 
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FREEDOM

We make a plan to minimize those little habits that keep you stuck – the "I can't”s, the hours wasted online, whatever is sucking your time and energy. We look right at the fears and doubts that keep you immobile and see how fictitious they are. Such a RELIEF after so many years of believing the hype.


A GOOD PLAN

Usually when we feel stuck, our head is a hot mess of plans and aspirations cooked in with our insecurities and doubts. We can’t see what's what, and have no idea where to begin. We go from deer-in-headlights to clarity about what you want to develop, start doing, bring to life. And we make you a clear, doable ROADMAP.


AWARENESS

Even if you think you know what "your stuff" is – you've never worked with it in this way before.  We find the right tools that work for you (I’ve got an arsenal of them!) and the thoughts, fears, beliefs, and mental and emotional habits that have been dragging you down for years – will begin to DISSOLVE


FRESH PERSPECTIVE

In three short months you will begin to relate in a new way to problems, worry, bad days, change, hard times, loss, criticism, praise, disappointment. And you will inevitably begin to loosen your grip, lighten up, RELAX a little more – and even welcome whatever life dishes out.


YOUR LIFE BACK

When you start to see how your habitual thinking and talking is shaping your experience, everything shifts. You start to do and think and say things that bring the results you want to see. You finally start living your life awake at the wheel, with your WISDOM eye open.

Before working with Sonja I had been stuck for a very long time. It felt like the color, the breath, had gone out of life. I was depressed, buried under bad thoughts. This experience had a positive and profound impact on my life. It brought everything to light.
— LISA G | BOSTON, MA
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MIDLIFE
REBOOT

  • We go head-to-head + heart-to-heart for 3 months (to start – then we re-assess)

  • 1:1 sessions every 2 weeks (via Skype or Zoom). Sometimes more, sometimes less, depends what’s going on in your mind and life and what you need.

  • Expect to do plenty of juicy writing + reflecting that brings clarity and calm, and gets junk moving up and out. (I’ll send you journal prompts, exercises, tools, readables and listen-ables.)

  • We maintain close contact – via email or audio back-and-forths (via Voxer) so you get all the encouragement, feedback, direction and perspective you need to shed the skin and return to center.

Monthly cost

€325 

(3-month commitment)

2 spots open in June.

Carpe diem, sister.

Click REBOOT ME and fill out the form. We'll set up a time to meet for 30-minutes, to make sure we're the right fit.

When I came to Sonja I was totally lost. I had lost my job, was not happy where I was living, and not sure about what I wanted to do. I felt lonely and stuck. I got so much clarity from working with Sonja. I became less stressed and more calm. I regained my confidence. I now understand more how I function, and how to handle difficult situations. I have learned to step back and see the answer right in front of my eyes! I’m no longer afraid of the future. I feel stronger, much clearer in my head, and happier.
— AGNES P. | MARSEILLES + NYC
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FAQ

This feels like a MAYBE. How can I be sure it’s for me?
If you are here it's probably because something is resonating. Nothing to lose by getting on a face-to-face call. You can tell me what you’ve been living and what your doubts are. I’ll be completely honest with you. If we're not a fit, I'll point you in another direction. And we can stay in touch. But whatever you do, don’t keep sitting in that motionless place!

Why should I trust YOU to take me through this process?
I’ve been doing this a long time – helping people get unstuck, changing, thinking differently. I’m a certified NLP coach and my work is grounded in neuroplasticity, Socratic questioning and Buddhist psychology. I am VERY easy to talk to, honest, direct, open-minded, nonjudgmental. I see things quite differently, and I have ZERO doubt about your capacity to transform.

How often do we meet?
We meet face-to-face every other week for 3 months. It gives you time to get busy between sessions (writing, reflecting, using tools, following through) without feeling like it’s TOO MUCH. I'm right here whenever something’s up and you want to reflect, talk it through, or just get my 2¢. I keep my mind on you for the 3 months (and beyond!) 

What does the process involve?
Active exploration and continual movement. We will look at what’s been in the way, and what particular habits (mental, verbal, physical) are keeping you down. Expect plenty of prompts for writing and reflecting as well as mindset tools and techniques (you’ll do these for life). We will also map out in detail all the steps to get you from where you are to where you want to be. You start moving and we tackle whatever arises. No more giving up.

How do I pay?
After we meet (and decide we're a fit) I send you a link to my PayPal.me, and you either pay all at once or we split it into 3 monthlies.

Sonja’s approach is unique. Her coaching is like inner surgery. She catalyses inner changes which result in outer changes. There are no words to describe the results! By results I mean tangible differences to every area of my life.
— KATHERINE H | LONDON + MONACO
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